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I am currently busy with the school in which I had a major part to play with. This is neither my school nor my dream. This is my commitment.

A huge population of Filipino migrant families here in Singapore had previously left because of limited educational opportunities. And because of this situation, LEAD Centre for Education was born. Aba tamang-tama, I have three children studying in local school, pwede kong ma i-share sa ibang bata ang mga lessons na natutunan ng mga anak ko. Pwede naman sigurong pagsabayin ulit ang pagiging ina at pagiging guro.

Day 1 with 15 students. To juggle Math, English, Science within 4 hours… nahulas ang beauty ko! My energy was already drained, and it is not even midday yet. Pero later that day, ang saya kong nakatulog.

Nakaka-ilang araw na ba? Happiness is sinking in! A few more students added to our family and we are now warm with each other. Ang first day na nagsimula sa shake-hands, ngayon high-five na! Aba level-up ang friendship ng mga bata! I have discovered a lot of things with our students. Nandyan ang bata na takot mapagalitan ng mga magulang sa mababang marka na nakuha niya from his exam. Nandyan naman ang batang laging nagbabanyo. There was even a time I caught him playing with soap that I have to wash his hair, salon-style (sa sink ba nakadantay ang leeg para mabanlawan ko ang buhok). I witnessed one little lady who was lacking confidence and because of the support and encouragement of her parents, aba umaariba ang grade at pati ang kanyang hosting skills, panalo. Informalities are good, pansin nyo, pati ako nag eenjoy na din sa pagkwento? These are just the tip of the iceberg.

A few months had passed. I have become young again. Ano na ba ang pinaggagawa ko sa buhay nila?  We studied ukelele together, I was forced to study the Chinese language (baka mapahiya kasi ako sa kanila), memorized the latest songs with them, played “10-20-30” and “Mr Wolf”, I even tried studying the “The Cup Song” para “in” si Ms Joan. Though, I am their teacher, I have become their student too.

 

While I was eating with another student, I was curious to know what will she be like after 18 years. Will she be able to recognize me? And so I devised a plan. Since she owe me lunch, sabi ko bayaran nya na lang ako pag matanda na sya. And to this date, my anticipated lunch dates 18 years from now are more than five. (Caleb(4x), Stephanie, Aliyah, Alana(2x), Elle, Lambert and Reis).

I am hopeful that in a few years time, one of them could replace a Ms Joan. It might not be their dream job, but when one of them realised that this is their calling, they will yield to it, and be inspired to commit themselves as they discover that there was no better feeling in this world than becoming a teacher.

 

Dadvice: #3 On loving your Siblings

 

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click here to read our Dadvice article #1 On treating your Parents

click here to read our Dadvice article #2 On keeping your promises 

 

Yes, yes, they may get on your nerves a lot.  And yes, I do keep track of who did what to whom.  But is being upset with your brother or sister really that important.  You should always remember that family is family.   Cherish your brothers and your sister while you are young, and even more when you’ve grown up.  They should be your closest friends.  No one will understand all the craziness you’ve been through while growing up better than your own siblings.  And, don’t forget all the fun you guys had playing together when Mom and Dad aren’t around.  And, when your parents’ time has come to pass, it is really among yourselves that you can rely on.  Forgive your petty fights and always love each other, WE are family.

 

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Dadvice: #1 On treating your Parents

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Daddy Said…

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Things that you want to make sure your kids know …or not know

Often times in life, we take a look back on things that we’ve done and thought – “if I only knew, I might have done better…”   This realization is not bad, when you think about it, it’s actually edification.  It means that you’ve now learned something new, which you didn’t know before.  Knowledge is Power.  And as a 90’s kid, I’ve come to realize that there is wisdom in what my favorite cartoon show always says – “Knowing is half the battle”.

Although it is true that experience is the best teacher, it doesn’t just have to be only your own experience that you should rely on to teach you.  We can also learn lessons from experiences of other people, and use it to our advantage.

In this section of Daddy said, I would like to give my kids that advantage and impart to them some of the important life lessons, and “life-hacks”, that I’ve learned in my life as well as from others.  Though some of these things may seem to be ‘common sense’ to us parents, at times, we tend to forget that our kids don’t know these things yet.  They could greatly learn from it and it may help improve their perspective in life.

Please join me as I share to my kids the stuff that they should know (or maybe shouldn’t know yet) about the birds and the bees, and the flowers and the trees…  And who knows, maybe you and your kids can share some of your life lessons too.

For today’s post…

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#1   On treating your Parents

Always love and respect them period.  Yes, it’s true that sometimes we might do some things that seem unfair to you, but do trust that we always have your best interest at heart.  I’ve loved you from the day you were born and will continue to do so until my dying breath, no intermissions in between.  It is the same with your mom, and your grandparents as well.  You may not always see it, but your mom and I love and respect our parents very much too.  They have been there for us, with love, patience, and understanding, holding our hands, ever since we could remember.  And this is the same promise that we make to you.  When all the world comes crumbling down, we are the ones who will always be here for you… near, far, and wherever you are.

And the next time you get to talk with your parents or elders, take time to listen.  There are a lot of things they can teach us, simply by telling us the consequences of what they did, or did not do, in their lives. Reciprocate with love, compassion and most of all, with respect.

 

One afternoon with foul words

When I am about to fetch my kid from his soccer training, I heard three higher primary students exchanging a few foul words with each other. They are not arguing, but laughing nonchalantly.  One says, “I know what an ass looks like…”

These kids are wearing their school uniform. (note: not from my son’s school thankfully, but this can happen from ANY school to be fair.)

Words like G_ _ D_ _ _ I_ and As_ H _ _ _ were thrown. My auditory nerve is sensitive to hearing these words coming from kids their age and so finally, my brain decided to zip their not-so-innocent mouth.

Despite the fact that I’m shaking inside and have been wanting to spank them all, I manage to keep calm and tell them that their teachers won’t be happy if I report them to their school. I also found myself repeating these words (I know you’re going to raise your eyebrow, but let’s face it, I’m talking to some hard headed higher primary kids, I am curious to know their reactions if I copy them)

I studied their faces of contempt.  Then I let out a “not really nice to hear, right?”

I smiled and retired.

I heard the biggest one exclaimed, “Hallelujah! That lady went away.

How to keep your children from saying bad words

image source: www.teachjunkie.com

image source: www.teachjunkie.com

“A child’s mind is like a sponge and absorbs whatever it hears in the environment it is in.” Having three growing inquisitive children, all the things they hear, good or bad are in truth, beyond my control. This is real. Even the things that you hear from the movies, TV shows, or some You Tube videos intended for kids are sadly, not safe for kids. Profanity is unavoidable. I am guilty of saying bad words too. The first time I heard my kid say “damn it,” I was embarrassed and shocked because he said it in front of our friends. To make the long story short, I did not beat my child, but I warned him that it should be the first and the last swear words I’ll hear.

Just this weekend, I heard those words again but this time around, my other child had said it. “Damn it.” Okay. I missed something. I forgot to explain MORE to them why that word was considered a bad one. I confronted them, and veered right away. Placing myself in their shoes, I know it is so tempting to say these words because we hear it everywhere. And just like what I said earlier, kids absorb whatever they hear. And when you tell them to stop, the more they will ask you WHY. You see, they need a sound explanation too.

So this got me thinking…

  • Be a good example in front of them. We are not perfect. But when you feel like cursing…
  • Find some substitute words. It is okay to be angry, let it out, but choose a more subtle language when you are around with your kids.
  • There are times that you cannot deliberately keep them away from being exposed to profanity. So if this happens, point out the words right away. Tell them not to use them because these words will make them look bad.

A few weeks ago, Sofie shared with me a simple yet meaningful activity from her Form Teacher and Guidance Period Class (Mr Idris of Yumin Primary School). This made his students realized how it is important not to tolerate saying bad words.

According to my daughter, here’s what they did:

  • Their form teacher asked them if they knew some bad words that they are aware of. (and yes, he allowed the kids to say these words)
  • The teacher wrote it down on a piece of paper. So while writing, he made these children realized how strong these words were (some children were throwing non-vulgar words, but considered as bad ones too. I was embarrassed to know that my daughter threw one of the strongest words in the history of “childrenkind” )
  • He then explained the effects of saying these harsh words to friends. “People will not like you if you say these words… You will be a bully… You will hurt other people’s feelings when you say this… You will lose friends…”
  • After writing it down, he made a meaningful act as he crumpled the paper while saying “Let’s throw the bad words in the rubbish bin.”

A simple activity yet my daughter remembered every detail of it, she had learned a lot without being reprimanded.

She is now our language police.

Watch Zacki’s World in YouTube

Initially he thought that the dragon egg is real

Initially he thought that the dragon egg was real

 

Hi guys!

While the merry makings are happening all around, I would like to invite you all to watch my son’s YouTube debut – Zacki’s World.

Aside from being a “Dragon Riders of Berk” fan, he was also inspired by A LOT of toy review videos he was watching in YouTube.

Months ago, while we were having our usual “window shopping” at Toys ‘R Us, he came across some dragon eggs. He was wondering if it were real and he might have a real pet dragon inside.

Not to spoil you guys, I do not recommend this 10-dollar toy to your children.

But shooting this video, and seeing my excited kiddo patiently waiting for the egg to “hatch” was kinda worth it. Not bad for a four-year-old.

Hopefully we can do another video soon 🙂 Please click the link to watch. Thanks a lot!

Zacki’s World

 

thanks to Kuya and Ate for accompanying Zack during the “unboxing” of the toy

 

Teachers’ Day – A Day Not To Be Missed

Although teacher’s day is not an actual holiday in every country, it is still a very important day to commemorate our educators. For without them, it would be difficult to have attained what we have now- LITERACY.   teacher11 Though some may looked down on this profession, it is always key to know and understand that it is through our teachers that we get to learn life’s lessons within and outside the classroom walls.  teacher confession I encourage your children to take this time and opportunity to reciprocate the dedication of their teachers by thanking them and showing them the appreciation that they so much deserve.

You know Madam Aniza during the first day of school, I thought that attending primary school will be hard for me. But I was wrong. You made each passing day so exciting. You let me play in the playground, let me read my favorite books in the library, and every time you see me sad and quiet, you ask me if I am okay or not… Most of all, you always talk to me and teach me again the things that are hard to comprehend, always making sure that I understand the lesson well. I am learning a lot from you, teacher. And seeing you in our school will always be the highlight of my day. Love, Ethan

 

 You know Ms. Ashiqin, every time I hear you say “You can do it Sofie!” I am inspired to give my best, because aside from my mom and dad, I also want you to be proud of me. So every time I take the test, do my homework, work on my projects, I am thinking if I can make you happy too. So I study harder, because I always want to see you smiling at me…

Hi Ms. Ashiqin, every time I hear you say “You can do it Sofie!” I am inspired to give my best, because aside from my mom and dad, I also want you to be proud of me. So every time I take the test, do my homework, work on my projects, I am thinking if I can make you happy too. So I study harder, because I always want to see you smiling at me… Love, Sofie

 

Hello Mrs. Lim, I was touched when you helped me clean my mustache when it was the Children's Day party in school. You were like a mommy too, but only living in school. Thank you for for listening to me every time I tell you stories about anything I want to say. It makes me feel special. Love, Santino

Hello Mrs. Lim, I was touched when you helped me clean my mustache when it was the Children’s Day party in school. You were like a mommy too, but only living in school. Thank you for listening to me every time I tell you stories about anything I want to say. It makes me feel special. You are special to me too, that’s why I want to make you happy all the time. Love, Santino.

 We also would like to extend our thanks to:

Mrs. Sharon Chan

Mdm. Suriaty Jumahat

Mdm. Ayul Huda

Ms. Neo

Mrs. Ang

Mdm. Nur

Ms. Adeline Koh

Teacher Seema

Mdm. Ng

Teacher Aida

Teacher Lily

Teacher Hawa

Teacher Nur

Teacher Neo Liang

Mdm Bahiya Duana

Mdm Linda Jamil

Mrs. Long

Mrs. Singh

Ms. Koh

Ms. Nur Hayati

Ms. Lai

Mdm. Suraya

Ms. Victoria

Monsieur Benoit de Menza

And to all the teachers… Thanks for all your hard work and dedication. We appreciate everything.

image credit: queenzasstyle.blogspot.com

image credit: queenzasstyle.blogspot.com

here’s A song for teachers all over the world please click the link – A song for teachers all over the world 

 

Let me share with you the lists of some countries who also give importance to this occasion.

Country Date of Teachers’ Day Notes
Afghanistan Oct 5 Schools have a holiday, but students and teachers gather to celebrate at schools with special traditional food, cookies, music and presents for the teachers
Albania March 7 In 1887, the first secular school which taught lessons in Albanian was opened on this day in the small city ofKorçë. All schools had previously functioned under the supervision of the Catholic Church in northern and middle Albania; the Orthodox Church in the south did not allow any Albanian schools.
Algeria February 28
Argentina September 11 To honour the memory & work of Domingo Faustino Sarmiento, who died on this date in 1888, in Asuncion, Paraguay.
Armenia October 5 Until quite recently, Armenia celebrated the Teacher’s Day on the first Sunday of October. But under a parliament decision to amend the law on the Republic of Armenia Holidays and Commemoration Days, the holiday was shifted to October 5.[4]
Australia Last Friday in October On Australia’s celebration of World Teachers’ Day, the NEiTA Foundation and the Australian Scholarships Group (ASG) is proud to announce the national teaching recipients of the ASG Community Merit Awards. World Teachers’ Day was started by UNESCO and is celebrated in more than 100 countries around the world each year. On its 40th anniversary this year, it represents a significant token of the awareness, understanding and appreciation displayed for the contribution that teachers make to education.
Azerbaijan October 5 Between 1965 and 1994, the first Sunday of October. Since 1994, on October 5, it has coincided with the World Teachers’ Day (est. 1994 by UNESCO).
Bangladesh October 4 Schools don’t have a holiday if it’s not a weekly one. Students greet teacher and often send cards and presents. Teachers usually don’t teach them from the books, those who do this share their experiences with the students. Students often try to surprise their teachers with anything they can think of.
Belarus First Sunday of October
Brunei Darussalam September 23 To commemorate the birth date of the 28th ruler of Brunei, Sultan Omar Ali Saifuddien III, also known as the ‘Architect of Modern Brunei’ who amongst others had emphasized the importance of education to his subjects by introducing a policy of ‘free’ education whereby the citizens are charged very nominal fees for attending schools. This policy has now been followed by the current 29th ruler who has since extended the policy further.
Bhutan May 2 Established and marked on the birth anniversary of the third King of Bhutan, Jigme Dorji Wangchuck, who introduced modern education to the country.
Bolivia June 6
Brazil October 15 A decree regulating the elementary schools in Brazil. The celebration gained popularity throughout the country, and October 15 was officially designated Teachers’ Day in 1963.
Bulgaria October 5 On 29.09.2006, October 5 was recognised as Teacher’s Day by the government.[5]
Cameroon October 5 Teachers in Cameroon on Tuesday October 5, 2010 joined the rest of their peers worldwide to celebrate the 17th edition of the World Teachers Day. Placed under the theme, “Nation building passes through teachers”, the day served as an opportunity to pay homage to teachers who toil, sometimes under not-so-comfortable conditions, to build the capacities of human resources for the socio-economic development of the country. Commemorative activities in Yaounde that began in September 29 with educative talks at the Lycée Général Leclerc had round off on Tuesday at the Wada multi-purpose sports complex.
Canada October 5
Chile October 16 In 1967, September 11 was chosen as “Día del Maestro” (“Teacher’s Day”). The date was moved to December 10 in 1975, because on that day in 1945, the Chilean poet Gabriela Mistral received the Nobel Prize. In 1977, the date was renamed to “Día del Profesor” (also “Teacher’s Day”) and was moved again, to October 16, to honour the founding of the Colegio de Profesores de Chile (Teachers’ Association of Chile).[6]
Colombia May 15 This day marks the appointment of San Juan Bautista de la Salle as the patron of teachers. In 1950, Pope Pius XII granted his approval of La Salle as patron of teachers for championing the causes of modern education. The holy founder understood the education of children as the obligation of all. Usually the schools of his time (1651–1719) only accepted young people studying towards politics or diplomacy. Juan Bautista outlined the principles of free and universal education. That same year in Colombia, the President of the Republic declared that date as Teachers’ Day.
Costa Rica November 22
China September 10 In the People’s Republic of China (PRC), there are some activities for students to show their appreciation to teachers, such as presenting gifts, including cards and flowers. In addition, many former students will go back to their old middle schools and high schools to give presents to their old teachers.The government first proclaimed Teachers’ Day in 1985, but has never clearly explained why it should fall on September 10. Some people believe it was an arbitrary choice and have proposed to change it to September 28, which is believed to be Confucius‘s birthday. On Sep. 5, 2013, the State Council announced a legislative draft endorsing the change. If adopted, it would effectively make mainland China and Taiwan share the same Teachers’ Day beginning in 2014. Taiwan has observed September 28 as Teachers’ Day since the 1950s.[7]
Czech Republic March 28 The birthday of John Amos Comenius. Czech students nominate the teachers whose approach most motivates and inspires them to the competition Zlatý Ámos (Golden Amos). The coronation of “Golden Amos” take place yearly on March 28.[8][9]
Ecuador April 13 Celebrated on this date in honour of Juan Montalvo, an Ecuadorian teacher who planted the seeds of development in young minds.
Egypt February 28
El Salvador June 22 Observed as a national holiday.[10][11]
Estonia October 5 In Estonia last class students grant leave to teachers by conducting lessons themselves.
Germany October 5
Greece January 30 Derived from the Eastern Orthodox faith when the Three Holy Hierarchs and Ecumenical Teachers (Basil the GreatGregory the Theologian and John Chrysostom) are commemorated.
Guatemala June 25 A celebration in honour of the teacher Maria Chinchilla who died during a violent riot in protest against the government.
Honduras September 17 Celebration in honour of the life of José Trinidad Reyes
Hong Kong September 10[citation needed] Before the transfer of sovereignty of Hong Kong in 1997, Teachers’ Day was on September 28. After the handover to the People’s Republic of China, the day was changed to September 10, which is when the PRC celebrates the holiday.[citation needed]
Hungary First Sunday of June
India September 5 The birthdate, [5 September 1888], of the second President of India, academic philosopher Dr. Sarvepalli Radhakrishnan. It is considered a “celebration” day, where teachers and students report to school as usual but the usual activities and classes are replaced by activities of celebration, thanks and remembrance. At some schools on this day, the responsibility of teaching is taken up by the senior students to show appreciation for their teachers.in Tamilnadu , this day is called as “Aasiriyar Tinam”Another day set aside for commemorating teachers in India and Nepal is Guru Purnima, also called ‘Ashad sukla purnima’. It typically falls in mid-July.
Indonesia November 25 National Teachers’ Day is commemorated on the same day as the formation of the Indonesian Teachers’ Association, the PGRI. National Teachers’ Day is not a holiday, but it is celebrated by having a ceremonial activity in recognition of certain teachers, headmasters and other school staff.
Iran May 2 Commemorating the martyrdom of Abulhassan Khan’ali, a teacher who was shot dead in a meeting in front of National Parliament during the Mohammad Rezā Shāh era on May 2, 1961. Later the Islamic Republic government changed it to commemorate the martyrdom of Dr. Morteza Motahhari on May 2, 1979.
Israel 23 Kislev
Jamaica May 6 Teachers’ Day is normally celebrated on May 6 or the first Wednesday in May.[12] In celebration of Teachers’ Day, it is common for students and parents to bring teachers gifts. In addition, most schools are closed early (half-day).
Jordan February 28
Laos October 7
Latvia The first Sunday of October.[13] In fact, within schools, Teacher’s day is celebrated on 1st Friday of October. Usually, part of classes that date are canceled or conducted by elder grade pupil, while teachers are greeted.
Lebanon March 9 Between March 3 and March 9.
Libya February 28
Lithuania October 5 Between 1965 and 1994, the first Sunday of October. Since 1994, on October 5, to coincide with the World Teachers’ Day (est. 1994 by UNESCO).
Macedonia October 5
Malaysia May 16 This date was chosen because on the same day in 1956, the Federal Legislative Council of the Federation of Malaya endorsed the Razak Report, one of four reports of the Education Committee regarding education in Malaysia. The document, known as the Razak Report after Tun Abdul Razak who was Education Minister at the time, has been the basis of education in Malaysia ever since. Although it is not an official school holiday, celebrations are usually held on May 16, or earlier, if it falls on a Saturday or Sunday.
Maldives October 5 On October 5 Schools in Maldives celebrate teachers day with many activities, among them children and students will give parcels and gifts to teachers.
Mauritius October 5
Mexico May 15 On May 15 (known as Dia Del Maestro) schools in Mexico are supposed to stop normal activities and organize cultural events that promote the importance and dignity of the teachers’ role in society. In reality some schools operate as usual and others take the day off.The first Teacher’s Day was celebrated on May 15, 1918. The date of May 15 was proposed at the Mexican Congress on September 27, 1917, approved on October 29, 1917 and published on December 5, 1917. There are several possible origins for choosing this date. The first one mentions that in the city of San Luis Potosí every May 15, a group of students gathered to celebrate the birthday of their old teacher Isidore. This teacher was named after Saint Isidore the Laborer, following the Mexican tradition of naming children according the Saint celebrated the day they were born. The second origin considers the celebration of a historic event in the city of Querétaro on May 15, 1867.[14]
Republic of Moldova October 5
Mongolia First weekend of February
Morocco February 28
Nepal Full moon day of nepali month Ashad The full moon day is also called ‘Ashad sukla purnima’ and the day usually falls in mid-July. Teacher’s day is called “Guru Purnima” in Nepali, where “Guru” means teacher and “Purnima” means “Full Moon”. Celebrating “Guru Purnima” is very old tradition and it is related with ancient Hindu tradition. Among upper caste Hindus, the person who teaches “Mantras” during “Bratabandh ceremony” is considered as the real “Guru”.Students pay homage to the teachers, offer them foods and flowers and receive blessings from the teacher. “Gurudevo bhava” a Sanskrit phrase meaning “Be a person for whom the teacher is God” is still widely accepted. Teachers are given the highest degree of respect.
Netherlands October 5[15]
New Zealand October 29 In 2010 teachers were encouraged to march against recent cuts in government funding by marching in Auckland on Sunday 31st.
Oman February 28
Pakistan October 5 It recognizes the importance of teachers and attributes progress to the quality of teachers in Pakistan’s Educational System.
Panama December 1 To commemorate the birth date of Manuel José Hurtado, who is known as the father of Panamanian education due to his promotion of modern universal education through the establishment of the first public schools and teachers’ colleges in what is now known as Panama— then part of Colombia – aiming to break the vicious cycle of ignorance and poverty that afflicted the vast majority of the population. He went on to be named Director-General of Public Instruction of the State of the Isthmus.[16]
Paraguay April 30
Peru July 6 During the independence of Perulibertador don José de San Martín founded the first Normal School for Men by means of a resolution passed by Marquis of Torre-Tagle on July 6, 1822.Many years later, on 1953, the then president Manuel A. Odría decided that Teachers’ Day would be commemorated on the 6th of July.[17]
Philippines October 5 By Presidential Proclamation No. 479[18] to honour more than 500,000 teachers nationwide. However, in thePhilippines Teachers’ Day is actually celebrated in schools between the months of September and October (mainly elementary and secondary levels). Teachers are presented with orchid corsages by students. Groups of students representing various grade levels perform short skits or song and dance numbers, or read poetry for their teachers in front of fellow schoolmates in school-wide activities. These activities are planned by senior students in the Student Council who coordinate the activities well in advance. For Filipino-Chinese schools, a program is usually organized by students for teachers on September 27, while September 28, considered as the actual Teachers’ Day, is a school holiday where both teachers and students are allowed to rest. September 28 was chosen because it is known as the birthdate of famous Chinese philosopher Confucius.[19]
Poland October 14 This day is the anniversary of the creation of the Commission of National Education, created in 1773 through the initiative of King Stanisław August Poniatowski. Normally flowers and sweets will be given to teachers by kids. School play and activities can be also scheduled by student body.
Kuwait October 5
Qatar October 5
Romania
Russia October 5 Between 1965 and 1994, the first Sunday of October. Since 1994, on October 5, coincides with the World Teachers’ Day (est. 1994 by UNESCO).
Saudi Arabia February 28
Serbia October 5
Singapore First Friday of September An official school holiday. Celebrations are normally conducted the day before, where students usually get half a day off. In some schools, students will put on performances to entertain and honour their teachers.
Slovakia March 28 Commemorates the birthdate of John Amos Comenius.
South Korea May 15 since 1963 in Seoul and 1964 in Chunju City Originally it was started by a group of Red Cross youth team members who visited their sick ex-teachers in hospitals. At start its date was May 26. But from 1965, the date has changed to May 15, dated after Sejong the Great‘s birthday.[20] The national celebration ceremony was stopped between 1973 and 1982 but it resumed after that. On the day, teachers are usually presented with carnations by their students. Ex-students pay their respects to their former teachers by visiting them and giving them a carnation. Many schools now close on Teachers’ Day because of the rampant bribery implicit in the expensive gifts often given to teachers. Schools can use the day to have an outing for the teachers.
South Sudan December 1 (2011-12); October 1 (2013-) The president of South Sudan proclaimed Teacher’s Day for December 1st, one month before the country’s first Teacher’s Day. On September 1st, one month before the country’s third Teacher’s Day, it was publicly announced that they changed the date to October 1st.
Sri Lanka October 6 Its Officially the Teachers’ Day in Sri Lanka on 6 October, every school celebrate the special day. the teachers are Given with surprised gifts on that day by their students.
Spain January 29
Syria March 18[citation needed]
Taiwan September 28 Taiwan uses this day to honour teachers’ contributions to their own students and to society in general. People often make use of the day to express their gratitude to their teachers, such as paying them a visit or sending them a card. This date was chosen to commemorate the birth of Confucius, believed to be the model master educator in ancient China. In 1939, the Ministry of Education established the national holiday as August 27, the attributed birthday of Confucius.In 1952, the Executive Yuan changed it to September, stating that it was calculated to be the precise date in theGregorian calendar. The festival celebration occurs in the temples of Confucius around the island, known as the “Grand Ceremony Dedicated to Confucius” (祭孔大典). The ceremony begins at 6am with drum beats. 54 musicians are dressed in robes with blue belts, and 36 (or 64) dancers dressed in yellow with green belts. They are led by Confucius’s chief descendant (currently Kung Tsui-chang) and followed by ceremonial officers. Three animals: cow, goat and pig are sacrificed. The hairs plucked from these sacrificed animals are called the Hairs of Wisdom. In addition, local education institutes and civil offices award certain teachers for their excellence and positive influence.
Thailand January 16 Adopted as Teachers’ Day in Thailand by a resolution of the government on November 21, 1956. The first Teachers’ Day was held in 1957. January 16 marks the enactment of the Teachers Act, Buddhist Era 2488 (1945), which was published in the Government Gazette on January 16, 1945, and came into force 60 days later. Most Thai schools close for the day to give their teachers a break during the long second term. Many international schools do not, although they may hold celebrations to honour their teaching staff. There are very few public or official commemorations.
Tunisia February 28
Turkey November 24 Mustafa Kemal Atatürk thought and stated that “The new generation will be created by teachers.” . Atatürk was also considered as the Prime Teacher (TurkishBaşöğretmen), because he adopted a new alphabet for the newly founded Turkish Republic in 1923.
Ukraine The first Sunday of October At schools across the country, Teacher’s Day is celebrated the Friday before the holiday with “concerts” and gatherings, while students usually give their teachers gifts such as flowers and chocolate. On the holiday itself, many teachers celebrate with their families and friends at home or at restaurants or cafes.
United Arab Emirates February 28
United Kingdom October 5
United States National Teacher Day is on Tuesday during Teacher Appreciation Week, which takes place in the first full week of May (May 6, 2014) Students often show appreciation for their teachers with gifts or writing thank you cards. The National Education Association describes National Teacher Day as “a day for honouring teachers and recognizing the lasting contributions they make to our lives”.[21]The NEA gives a history of National Teacher Day:[21] The origins of Teacher Day are murky. Around 1944 Wisconsin teacher Ryan Krug began corresponding with political and education leaders about the need for a national day to honour teachers. Woodbridge wrote to Eleanor Roosevelt who in 1953 persuaded the 81st Congress to proclaim a National Teacher Day. NEA along with its Kansas and Indiana state affiliates and the Dodge City (Kan. ) local lobbied Congress to create a national day celebrating teachers. Congress declared March 7, 1980, as National Teacher Day for that year only. NEA and its affiliates continued to observe Teacher Day on the first Tuesday in March until 1985, when the National PTA established Teacher Appreciation Week as the first full week of May. The NEA Representative Assembly then voted to make the Tuesday of that week National Teacher Day.As of September 7, 1976, September 11 was also adopted as Teachers’ Day in the U.S. state of Massachusetts. Currently, Massachusetts sets the first Sunday of June as its own Teachers’ Day, annually.
Uzbekistan October 1
Vietnam November 20 This holiday allows students to express their respect to their teacher. Students begin preparing a week in advance, and many classes usually prepare literature and art to welcome Teachers’ Day, while other students prepare foods and flowers for the parties held at their schools. Students usually visit their teachers at their homes to offer flowers and small gifts, or organize trips with their teachers and classmates. Former students also pay respect to their former teachers on this day. The holiday has its origins in a meeting between educators incommunist bloc nations in Warsaw in 1957. It was first celebrated in 1958 as the Day of the International Manifest of Educators; in 1982 the day was renamed Vietnamese Educators’ Day.
Venezuela January 15 On this day there are no classes and during the week all the teachers are honoured for their support in building the country.
Yemen February 28

(source: wikipedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Teachers’_Day))

The youngest child

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Sofie was playing with the tablet and Zack wanted to have his turn

Z: Ate (big sister), can I play now?

S: No.

Z: If you won’t let me play, I will delete that file.

His sister handed the tablet to him without saying a word.

The art of psywar.

Effortless.

 

I know he has a strong personality and he always use his reputation as the youngest to be able to get what he wants. Yet I told him that “if big sister won’t let you play in the tablet, do something else, not delete the file!”

 

Another conversation happened this morning.

Z: Ate (big sister) will you let me use your pen?

S: No

Z: If you won’t let me, I will throw everything

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Okay so I told him to do something else, and clearly, he’s going to do something else.

M: Zack!

Z: (he reasons to me using his soft voice with matching waving of his hands around his books)     No mommy… I just said I will throw my things… 

 

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I remembered the time when he was two years old, he was not afraid to play along with the big boys. He is the smallest in the crowd yet the most enjoyed. The moment I sensed danger when his big friends are getting out of control, I immediately asked him to leave the playground. With his little voice, he let go of these broken words “No! They- are- my-friends.” I am amazed with this kind of bravery and this kind of reasoning at his very young age.

Now that he’s four years old, I guess his audacity grew up with him, too.

 

My mom-in-law once told me, “You should play it by the ear when you discipline your child.”

To discipline my youngest child has always been a challenge. He often uses his crocodile tears to get away from the trouble he just did. And most of the time, even if I am not in a scolding mood, he always reasons.

So how do you really discipline your youngest child?

I will use Stephen R. Covey’s piece of advice: “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.”

Here’s something I found from the Oz blog that explains a lot about my son’s behavior.

Youngest Child 

The youngest are the individuals in the family. They’re more playful, and since they have to fight for attention, they’ve developed a sense of humor as a way of doing that. A lot of actors and famous comedians are the youngest in the family. They tend to take more risks because they’ve been more protected, so they feel indestructible. They have a lot of confidence, and that comes from the “watch what I can do” attitude. They’re creative and can be great problem-solvers. They also have a need to “dethrone” the first-born. Also, they can go out of their way to prove their individuality, since they end up with all the hand-me-downs. They are the charmers. As thrill/pleasure seekers, they can be most at risk for addictive behavior, which can range from compulsive eating and drinking to sex. (editors note: now I am alarmed)

Article written by Sue Varma, MD
Board certified Psychiatrist and Clinical Assistant Professor of Psychiatry, NYU Langone Medical Center”  
Source: http://www.doctoroz.com/videos/what-birth-order-can-predict-about-you

 

Here are some good pointers from parents.com:

Parenting your Last-Born Child

  • Lastborns often feel they aren’t taken seriously. Let her make some family decisions — like where to go out for dinner or which video to watch together.
  • Acknowledge his “firsts.” When he learns to tie his shoes or pees in the potty, call the relatives like you did with the firstborn. And be sure to make a big deal of his artistic accomplishments, displaying his drawings on the fridge, as you did for his older siblings.
  • Give the youngest child some responsibilities, even something simple like putting napkins on the table. Lastborns can end up with few family duties because they’ve learned to duck out of work or other family members have dubbed them too “little” to be able to handle things.” Source: http://www.parents.com/baby/development/sibling-issues/how-birth-order-shapes-personality/?page=4

 

Zack’s always happy and non-stop. He is his big sister’s “baby” and his big brother’s “sidekick.” He is our mascot and our daily dose of laughter.

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He has always been the life of the party. Someday we’ll just laugh about the little jokes he made when he was younger.

The best is yet to come.  And hopefully, when we grow old, his dad and I are still quick enough to ride along with his grown-up humor; or maybe strong enough to handle a mini-heart attack while laughing at his silliest.

We love you Zack.

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“The last day of my life…”

As we enter the month of love, we remember the people that give meaning to our lives. The one person that makes our everyday brighter, the one person we care the most about, the one person we can’t live without. But what if, it’s that person’s turn to live without you?
How do you show all the love that you have for her in a single day?
This Valentines Day, we posted a question to some of our friends asking, “If you were to spend your last day on earth with your loved one, where would you take her and what would you do?”

Read on and find out about their dearest thoughts.

Mr. Emiliano Bernardino

Mr. Emiliano Bernardino

“Knowing that it would be my last day… I would take my loved one to the church and we would be praying asking the Lord God for forgiveness and also to my loved one to forgive me of any wrongdoings I’ve done to her… giving myself of a clear conscience… for I know the Lord is compassionate and forgiving.. as what is written in the Holy Bible that I believe and have faith in the Lord Jesus…”
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Mr. Noel Nicolas with family, Emmanuel and Mrs. Alice Nicolas

Mr. Noel Nicolas with family, Emmanuel and Mrs. Alice Nicolas

“If it would be my last day on earth with my loved one, I will bring her to the church and have the grandest wedding that I can afford. But before all the ceremony, I would walk her through our life, I will bring her where we first met, where we first kissed, where we had our first date, where we first disagreed and quarreled, bring her to where I proposed, and to all the happy places we’ve been together. Antonn Emmanuel would be our ring bearer, I will sing her our favorite song and dance our heart out. (Even though I could not sing nor dance). After the ceremony we would party for an hour, (why an hour?, hey its my last day on earth, I dont want to share her to others) Then we will check in to where we had our first night as a couple, however, now with our son, pamper her with whatever she wishes, give her a good massage, cuddle, hugs and kisses with lots of threesome affection, (threesome because of our son not the threesome you are thinking). Of course the roses the chocolates and cards……..who am I kidding, we are not talking of what I want here, the first thing I would do is ask her where she would like to spent my last day cause she has been calling the shots ever since and there is no sense changing it hahaha. Besides she might not want to marry me again… In short, we will just dine the way we had been doing every valentines day for the last 24 years and enjoy our son as long as we could. I would tell her thank you for the love, care and patience. That If I were given a chance to relive my life I would not want a single day changed and would like to have it the same way. Then I would tuck her in bed and tuck my son in too, give them both a warm kiss, wait till they sleep, then I go..”
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Mr. Mamerto Rodriguez with wife, Mrs. Ludy Rodriguez

Mr. Mamerto Rodriguez with wife, Mrs. Ludy Rodriguez

“If I were to spend my last day on earth with my loved one (my wife Ludy), I will bring her to Sta. Cruz church where we usually spend time praying to God to bless both of us and the boyfrien/girlfriend relationship we have started then. There, we shall look back at all the good times we shared together and thank God, not only for all the blessings/graces He has bestowed on us, but also for being ever-present in our life’s journey through His great love for us and to our children grandchildren.”

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r. RJ Nicolas with wife, Tess

RJ Nicolas with wife, Tess

“I would definitely without a second thought take her to the place where we first met. It’s a small business hotel in Davao where I was asked by my ex girlfriend to pick her up. A party was taking place and I wasn’t invited. And so I looked for my ex girlfriend, but to no avail, can’t find her there, instead, I met my wife amidst the thick fog of crowd. The rest was history. Ironic, I will spend my last dying breath reliving the moment I found my life… my wife.”
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Russel Castillo with wife, Luisa

Russel Castillo with wife, Luisa

“I hope that it’s late afternoon so it’s not so hot but still not dark. We’ll be relaxing in a small modern house in the middle of a farm or some wide area with some trees where we can view the sky on the horizon, drinking coffee and eating pastries while listening to our favorite music.”

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Kevin Nicolas

Kevin Nicolas

” I will take her to the food store where we first ate together, then go to the beach and the places we first went. I will court her as if it was our first date.”

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Josh O'Brien

Josh O’Brien

“I guess I’d just take her out to wherever she wanted to go, see all the pretty sights, eat some great food and overall just enjoy each other’s company.”

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Melvin Jay Tizon with girlfriend, Apple

Melvin Jay Tizon with girlfriend, Apple

“No specific place honestly. Anywhere in the world, for as long as Im with my special someone, it will always be the perfect place.”

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Ryan Tizon

Ryan Tizon

“Ako, yung hindi masyado madrama, ang gagawin ko magpapa party dito satin, style reunion, magpapa long table sa labas, may inuman kainan, kantahan at madaming kwentuhan, all day bonding with the clan ang dating, para pag graduate kinabukasan, masasayang baon ang dala ko at alam ko magiging ok si special someone sa piling ng pamilya ko kahit wala na ko =)”
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Allan Tizon with family

Allan Tizon with family

“My girlfriend and I might drive around before I ran out of time. Last megacode for us driving the ambulance 🙂 Then I’ll spend the rest of the day at home. If I’ll be spending my dying hours with her I surely would want mom and bro around. We’ll eat home cooked meal prepared by mom and laugh all night joking around. And before time runs out I’ll kiss her goodbye, thank her, cuddle and rest my head on her lap and utter the words “I love u.””
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Joel Cordova and wife, Bianca

Joel Cordova and wife, Bianca

“I will buy two tickets for Taiwan via Hello Kitty Air…and yes, I will swallow my pride and ride a flying cat just for her. The moment we land in Taiwan (while she’s still on a Hello Kitty high), we will immediately hop on a bus and travel again for another 3-4hrs to the mountain province of Taiwan. Once we reach the Alishan Mountains (by this time, the Hello Kitty high is starting to wear off, and hunger is starting to kick in), I will cover her eyes, and slowly guide her along the mountain path, until she realizes the smell…the yummy smell of STREET FOOD!!!! We’re not just talking about BBQs, Fishballs, etc. We are talking about “literally” more than 100 kinds of street food. After satisfying both our hunger, we will then find a nice spot to have warm milk tea, and watch the beautiful sunset together with my baby.”

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Dennis Rowell Cerdan with wife, Maryneth

Dennis Rowell Cerdan with wife, Maryneth

“Dadalhin ko si Maneth sa church… just to remind her my promise na sya lang ang babaeng mamahalin ko for life until I die…and I want to spend even my last minute in life with her…”

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SJ Usana

SJ Usana

” Lying in bed talking. There’s no other breathtaking view I would rather see for the very last time than my girl cradled in my arms…”

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Samuel John Arellano

Samuel John Arellano

” If that would be the case I dont think location would matter to me. Being with her would already be more than enough , I’ll just be spending every seconds left to express how much I love her.”

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Pierce Michael de Guia

Pierce Michael de Guia

” I’ll bring her to our favorite place in La Union Sunset Bay. And what would I do? “I will propose to her and right there and then, I will marry her.”

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Mark Joseph Francisco with wife, Racquel

Mark Joseph Francisco with wife, Racquel

I will bring my one and only love to the church. Kakausapin ko ang Diyos Ama, I will tell HIM. “Lord thank you for the wonderful and great life. I will thank Him for d gift… my ‘LOVE’! If ever bibigyan nya ako ng chance na mabuhay muli pipiliin ko muli ang woman of my life ang wife ko… always and forever bless nyo po kami.”

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Pao Fernandez with wife, Kath

Pao Fernandez with wife, Kath

“Sa ‘kin I’ll just spend the whole day from 00:00 – 23:59 with them, I dont know the location yet, but the whole day dapat puro tawanan, kwentuhan and enjoying their company. And pinaka important is mafeel nila how important sila sa buhay ko… Tapos find a flower shop na pwede magtake ng order for 20-30yrs…Tapos dinner sa bahay… pero bili lang ng food kasi wala na time magluto. Tapos usap, tawa, talk about good old days.. like what we did before..
Tapos let her know how much you love her and want her to be happy and of course let her know she can remarry if she wants.. and iI’m okay with that… as long as it will make her happy. That’s how much I love her, even in my last hours here on earth, I wanted to make her happy.”

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Jay Flores with Marifel and kids

Jay Flores with Marifel and kids

If I were to spend my last day on Earth with my loved one, I would take my wife Marifel Flores to the places that I have known she loves most. The city of romance and for lovers, Paris, France and the paradise island of Maldives. We would love to walk in the park, and dine in a fine restaurant with a view of Eiffel Tower at the background. Before the day ends, we would fly and stay a night in Maldives to reminisce all wonderful things happened to us.
“Live every day as if it was our last day.This would be the sweetest and the most romantic day we will ever have.”

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Gary Escueta with wife and daughter, Lorie and Gaby

Gary Escueta with wife and daughter, Lorie and Gaby

“If it would be my last day on Earth, iIwill bring my wife to the place where I felt that she is the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with…in St. Thaddeus Church in Mendiola. We were both devotees of St. Jude during the first years of our relationship and at that time, I decided that she’s the one i want to grow old with. So i think it’s only right to spend my last day to the place where it all started.
And at the same time, i can pray to God to forgive us in all our sins. 2 in 1. 🙂

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Marvin Nirza with wife, Celeste

Marvin Nirza with wife, Celeste

“Probably I’ll just stay in her arms anywhere.. .It’s not the place but the companionship … I just want to spend the whole day reminiscing our lives together, our better and worse, ups and downs, dreams fulfilled, and make her feel how lucky I am to have her in my life without any regrets. I’ll make sure to let her know that I am grateful for a lifetime well spent and thank her for the love and joy she brought into my life… ”

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Ed-el Pajarillo with wife, Pia

Ed-el Pajarillo with wife, Pia

“I would stay at home with my wife and children. I will cook their favorite food, play piano with them and read bedtime stories to them. I will give them all my love and attention before my time runs out…”

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Indy Calina with wife, Cheryl

Indy Calina with wife, Cheryl

“I would take her to a coffee shop… I’d bring my laptop and we’ll watch all the photos and videos we made together. We’ll laugh over our misadventures and hold each other tight as we go thru some romantic and touching clips. I want my wife to remember that the happiest days of my life are those spent with her…”

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Nelvin Natural with wife and daughter, Yeti and Yumi

Nelvin Natural with wife and daughter, Yeti and Yumi

I’d like to go to Ecuador and try out the “swing at the end of the world” it’s my last day on earth anyway so what the heck =) but if there’s one place that i would like to spend my last day with her.. that would be maldives coz we always wanted to go there… ATV ride around the island would be nice… we’d do everything the island has to offer especially those that she’s afraid to try out like scuba diving… maxing out my credit card in that place would be nice since it’s my last day anyway… to cap it off we’ll watch the sea of stars in vaadoo island till the day ends… The fun part is it’s just my last day on earth not hers so she gets a chance to relive those memories.”

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Jeof Gana with wife, Joanne

Jeof Gana with wife, Joanne

“I’ll take her to a yacht and sail away. Spend time just the two of us. I’ll bring my guitar and sing the song I wrote for her… she can have her camera syempre to take some great photo of these fond memories.”

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Edwin Velarde with wife, January

Edwin Velarde with wife, January


I would spend time holding my January and telling her how much I love her letting her know how much fun we enjoyed in our life and that God will keep us both safe in his arms….that it was so great to be in her life only for 10 years but it seemed like a 20 year period … Doing this while sun is setting down on the shoreline in Maldives”

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Ken Kiunisala with wife, Trina

Ken Kiunisala with wife, Trina

” “If I were to spend my last day on earth with Trina, I would take her to a place that she has been wanting to go to. In this place, I would want her to forget whatever problems/worries she has and would just want her to enjoy and have the time of her life. But… the thing is, I still don’t have an idea where this place is (so knowing this is still WIP) but I am hopeful that I’ll get to know this just before my last day on earth. Happy Valentine’s to my one and only Trina. I love you.”

The promise

Each day will always be a Valentine's Day

Each day will always be a Valentine’s Day

Their union as husband and wife had stood the test of time. For 35 years, and miles apart, they proved together that distance is not a hindrance to their marriage.
Here’s a loveletter in Filipino language, written with so much hope and promise. May their marriage serves as an inspiration to couples young and old, most especially the ones who are in a long distance relationship.

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Sa aking Pinakamamahal,
Pusong papel man ang maihahandog ko sa araw na ito, mula sa ibayong dagat na aking luklukan nitong limang taong mahigit, alaala lang ito ng tunay na pagmamahalan natin nitong nakaraang 17 taon.

Hanggang ngayon ay wala pa ring kupas at lalong nadaragdagan pa ang pag-ibig na kasama ng mga rosas na aking inialay sa iyo noong pinakaunang araw ng mga puso na magkasama nating ipinagdiwang.

Ngayon ay sumibol pa ang limang maliliit na puso mula sa dalawang pusong nag-iibigan.

Malayo man ako sa inyo ngayon ay hindi hadlang ito upang ipaabot sa inyo ang aking dalisay na pagmamahal at pag-asang darating din ang araw na tayo’y magkakasama-samang muli at magpapakaligaya sa piling ng isa’t-isa.
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Pagpalain tayo ng Poong Maykapal.
Nagmamahal,
Papa

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English Translation of the Valentine note

year 1996
To my beloved,
A paper heart I offer you on this day from across the seas,
retrieved from the bottom of my five-year treasure chest,
a remembrance of our love these past 17 years.
Unfading and more blooming is love with the roses offered on our first Valentine’s.
Today, five more small hearts blossomed from our twin hearts.
Distance is not a hindrance for you to be reached by love and hope that time will bring us together and live happily.
May our union be blessed. With all my love. Pa. Kuala Belait; Brunei.

With each other’s arms every second of the day. Happy 35th Anniversary!

“Marry me, merry me, at 35 we stay true to our promise, and promise to stay true forever and ever”


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To Mr Antonio and Mrs Teresita Alabastro, your love for each other is truly amazing and bound by time and space, and free from all the trivial worries of the world. May we be like you, always full of hope which sustains your love, no matter the distance; and always having the desire to be with each other’s arms every second of the day. Happy 35th Anniversary!

Made for each other

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It was a hot sunny Thursday, and I was late for school.

Being an 18 year old college student in Manila (Philippines), we normally take a jeepney going to the campus. A jeepney by the way, is a public transport pretty much like a small bus, but with passengers sitting in two long parallel seats facing each other. Me and my friend (a guy classmate) were rushing to make it to the passenger queue as the last jeepney was about to leave. Any other day and it would’ve been easy to get to school, but my day started out a little different that time. I just came from my friend’s, house where me and some other groupmates have stayed for the week, since we were finishing up on our thesis. We had barely slept to finish our project, missed our breakfast, sweating from the heat and from running to the Jeepney queue, and was now about 10 minutes late for first period… so yes, it didn’t seem like a very promising day to me. But you know, life does have a way of making it up to you. Just as we thought that we wouldn’t make it to our ride, it turns out that there were 2 more seats left. And boy am I glad to have made it to that jeepney that day.

Who would have thought that riding a jeepney that Thursday afternoon,  thirteen years ago, would be my best ride ever

Who would have thought that riding a jeepney that Thursday afternoon, thirteen years ago, would be my best ride ever

After getting ‘comfortably’ seated inside the jeepney, I immediately noticed a girl sitting across us, and a bit to the right. She was wearing a black shirt, and jeans, had dark short hair, and a fair complexion. She was cute, and looked nice, but nothing that jumps out of the ordinary. I tried not to pay attention to her since I was already worried about being late for class (not to mention being hungry too). However… there was just something about her that day, and I couldn’t look away. Was it her eyes, her hair, her smile?… nothing seems different. I don’t know. Somehow, for some reason, I wanted to keep looking at her, to see her face, and her eyes. Then I noticed a certain radiance about her, a certain charm. I kept trying to steal a glimpse of her from time to time, and it made me feel nice, and warm, and happy. With each look, my heart started to beat harder and started to race. I was excited to meet her and get to know this pretty and charming lady. Unfortunately, I’m not the most straightforward of guys. I am confident being around friends and other people, but not around people that I like… people that I Like… yes, I think I was starting to like her already at that time. Like a little gradeschool boy, I was having a major crush on this girl in front of me.

Then, it didn’t take too long for her to notice that I was stealing glances of her, and she somehow was also looking back at me from time to time. We both quickly tried to look away whenever our eyes meet, and it was getting to be fun and exciting. My heart was overjoyed whenever I see her laugh a little as she catches my glance (and I cowardly look away pretending to look somewhere else). I was in this happy mood, as we continued to travel to school, when suddenly, my friend blurted out in a loud, monotone voice “JP (for Joan Paula), IS THAT YOU?”.

The girl smiled and nodded her head in agreement. My heart was filled with joy.

My classmate knows this girl. This is it, this is my chance. Feeling like an athlete who was given a chance to go and play in the Championship game, I had to try and make my move. I slowly, carefully, whispered to my classmate “You know her, bro? Can you please introduce me? I’d love to meet her please…”. So then he plainly said, in his same loud, monotone voice “MY FRIEND HERE SAID HE WANTS TO MEET YOU”.

The entire jeepney heard him, and they giggled, and tried to muffle their laughs. I suddenly felt like I wanted to put a paper bag on my head. But she just smiled, reached out her hand and said, “Hi, I’m Paula”… I was frozen and speechless.

After I got to gather some courage and introduce myself, I did try desperately to hold a conversation (in the best way that I could without stuttering). But soon, our Jeepney has eventually reached it’s destination. I found out that she also goes to the same university as me and my friend, but in a different course. Also, that my classmate was her classmate during primary school and that’s how they knew each other. By this time, I already forgot that I was late (and hungry). We then got down from the jeepney, said goodbye and parted ways. And sure enough, “mucho-suave” me forgot to ask her for her phone number or if we can be in touch.

After that one encounter I had no way to reach her so I just tried to move on. But whenever I think about it, I always smile…I was happy. I realized that I missed her and that I wanted to talk with her some more. So, I kept bugging my friend to check if there was a way to get in touch with her. If they have a common friend, or former classmate who know’s her number, or if there is a party of a common friend that we can go to. Sadly, I did not have that much luck.

After a month I had the chance to bump into her again. This time, it was at a walkway outside the campus as I was about to go with my groupmates to buy project supplies. She stopped to talk to me, and said Hi. She asked me how I was and where I was going. My heart was beating fast again, while frantically trying to tell her the details of what she asked. But more than details of what I was doing, I wanted to tell her how great it was to see her again, and how I was trying to find a way to contact her. I wanted to let her know that I missed her, and that just by meeting her there, she had brighten up my day again. But before too long, my groupmates reminded me that we should already get going, so I hurriedly said goodbye… and again, in the anxiety, forgot to ask her how we can keep in touch.

A few weeks have passed and my friend finally comes back to me with a phone number… just a phone number written in a piece of white paper. Without saying anything, without writing anything, I already said a whole lot of Thank you’s, as I know to whom that phone number belongs to.

Getting home after school, I hurriedly changed from my uniform, and was excitedly about to call that number which I got from my friend. I called the number on that white piece of paper, and I was not disappointed. It was finally her.

For me it was like a dream. Her voice sounded like music to my ears. (And it really is, until now).We found out that one of her close friends was a classmate of my best friend. Later on, we also found out that some of her guy friends, were also my group mates during our cadet training in school. And her uncle even knew me, meeting me with my mom when I was younger, as they both worked in the same hospital. We discovered that we shared a number of other common acquaintences and friends.

It was a bliss to have finally found the girl I was looking for

It was a bliss to have finally found the girl I was looking for

It was then that I realized, that it was really only a matter of time before we would meet. And maybe, even if we were not able to see each other on that day in the jeep, we would still end up in each other’s arms because we were made for each other.

This has all happened more than 13 years ago. We are now happily married and blessed with 3 wonderful and lovely kids. We have had our share of ‘ups’ and ‘downs’ but through all the times we’ve spent together, I’ve always considered her as the ‘highlight’ of my day. Looking back after all these years later, you still are.

It was an unexpected ride of my life that took me to where I am now - ihand in hand with the woman I love

It was an unexpected ride of my life that took me to where I am now – hand in hand with the woman I love

To a caring mother and a great wife…
Happy Valentines day Paula.
I love you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Below are the 13 great dads who braved the Daddy Matters Valentine’s Day Series. Their love for their wives are  truly amazing and hope you find time to check the links out 🙂

Nick Pan

Eddie Yii

Howard Lee

Andy Lee

Patrick Pang

Darren Yang

Winston Tay

Edmund Tay

David Sim

Daddy M

Isaiah Kuan

Kelvin Ang

Lucian Teo

 

“What made me love thee?”

Men are not quite as vocal as we are. But for this post, I will prove you wrong. A man can express himself if need be.

This is a valentine tribute to a very special lady, Dra. Talat Fatima who’s blessed with such loving and amazing husband, Dr. Shamim Anwar. He graced this post without having second thoughts. Allow me to share with you a letter full of love, beautifully written from the heart.
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What made me love thee?
Let that persuade thee there’s something extraordinary in thee,
I cannot: but I love thee; none but thee; and thou deserves it. (William Shakespeare)
All days are nights to see till I see thee,
And nights bright days when dreams do show thee me. (William Shakespeare)

 

The time that you have spent with me and dedicated to home to make it a wonderful place to live in during all these years is really commendable.
I may have a problem with my memory but all those times no matter how low or high when we were together, are the best kept treasure within my heart. Even though I never express my feelings to you – I know I am very bad in that – but having a long night-chats over weekends, dinner gossips every night and struggling with kids to find some time chatting with you, although I am not very fond of coffee still enjoying it talking with you on window are those instances that may show how much more graceful you’ve grown that made me more attracted toward you.
Why I am speechless when I think about your contribution to my life? Why I am thoughtless when I think how I would repay it? Why I get distressed when I feel I am alone? Why I like teasing you? Why I love making you irritated and then try to cover up? Why I feel a sense of belonging when I get angry with you? Why it was you only on the face earth, in front of whom, I have let my tears flow? Why my creativity quotient becomes ‘zero’ when I try to compare you with anyone? Why it was your hand only that I touched for the first time in my life? And why it is my burning desire that it must be your hand only that I touch when I leave this world?
The answer is quite easy – because you are like blood in my body, an inherent part of my life. You are so lovely, incomparable, unique and affable person. In fact, you are a beautiful gift of God that He bestowed on me.
I don’t know what better way to say ‘I love you’ but yes, I have my very own style where my eyes work better than my tongue to transmit the signals that directly hit your heart.

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My first love

Lucky are those who have come to know and witness the love of our creator. That’s the most important gift in this world.

We are created to love too, in some ways, we return the love to our God by simply loving our family. Without their love, we are alone, or worst, we are nothing.

During my teenage years, I have been giving my mom countless headaches and heartaches. I thought I’m so grown up. I thought I knew better. Since I’m missing my dad a lot, I kept looking and searching for something that would compensate my feelings, the one that would make me whole again.

I tried attending church activities. I thought that it drew me one step closer to God, but I also felt that it took me a step farther from my mom. Because of my pride, we seldom talk, I never kissed her and never showed respect.

I prayed harder each day. I was still sad and lonely and I felt so lost. That solitude made me miss my dad so bad.

Though I was religious, I have been a bad daughter. The love of God does not reflect on me.
Then I get tired of our situation.
I have come to understand the things I did. I screwed up pretty bad.
I’ve caused her too much pain and I realized that it’s not pleasing to the eyes of my creator.
I can not even show love to the most important person He gave me.
I have to make it up to my mother.

Each passing day, I tried letting her know that I appreciate her, I tried letting her know that I love her. It is a rough road for me, but I tried not to give up…

Years later, four blessings came into my life, I felt God’s love once again.
I am now a mother and I now fully understood what it is like to be in her own shoes.

I remember the scriptures mom wrote on a piece of paper that night when I was younger.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails … 1 Corinthians 13:4–8

Back then, I was easily angered. I was not patient. I always kept record of wrongs. All I ever care about was my pride. I was unfair. I was not an instrument of God’s love.

How can I not love a woman who loved me despite of all the things I’ve done?
How can I not be proud of everything she endured for our family?

PicsArt_1390358775117Thanks mom for understanding me during my darkest days. You are a reminder of God’s love for me. I will always be grateful for everything you taught me. And you will always be in my heart and in my mind until my time is through. You are my first love, my first valentine.

A birthday poem for my better half

These are just words that I know won’t suffice in exchange for the love that you’ve given me, and the people around you. I always pray that we stay happy together day after day, month after month, year after year, birthday after birthday…

 

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I caught one big fish from the ocean
The most caring man I’ve ever known
The happiest when we’re together
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