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I may be closing the door to my past, but I won’t forget all the lessons, the good and the bad, the people,  and of course, my students who added colours to my life as a teacher.

Nothing’s really changed. I am just returning to the person I used to be. Being a full-time mom once again entails considerable effort! Coming back to a new world is like a female version of Rip Van Winkle, who had slept a great deal and was awaken by now teenage kids.

Here is what has been happening in my home 🙂

https://youtu.be/rWoeHNUikUM

 

 

 

The Rules of Parenting: Rule 2. No one is perfect

“Parenting” and “Perfection” are completely two unrelative words. I had my fair share of “mommy fails” and after reading this chapter, it is much clearer now, I will continue to raise my children in my own unique way. I sometimes do enjoy being an actual mother with flaws than a mother trying to be perfect for her children-which is certainly frustrating. What I now wanted my children to learn from me is that committing mistakes are normal; and that we have to move on and be a better version of ourselves the next day.

 

“A personal code for bringing up happy, confident children.”

What is your “Parenting Goal”?

Here is my New Year’s resolution in spite of being 13 days late. I converted it as my “Parenting Goal”. Isa lang naman ang goal ko para madaling gawin 🙂

Please listen to my musings and maybe, share and comment? Thanks!

Alive Museum Singapore Family Ticket Giveaway

There’s more to see in Alive Museum Singapore!

Recently, we were invited by the Alive Museum here in Singapore, and it was a nice surprise to see that this time around, the world’s best 4D museum has added two new zones, namely, the Young @ Heart and Live.Laugh.Love.  For those of you who have visited the fun and immersive AMS, enjoy it once more as they are offering a 40% discount for a limited time only. Yet another good news for all photo enthusiasts like myself! 😉

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More than just the galleries, my kids also loved and enjoyed the interactive pieces here as well.  Look at Sofie’s video below with one of their digital arts, featuring Marilyn Monroe –

 

And this disco and mirror room sure brings out your hidden moves and grooves.  It definitely makes me want to visit again.

 

Allow us to give you a tour around, but first here’s my favourite picture thus far-

My husband’s killin’ it.

 

This was taken at the Young @ Heart Zone. Isn’t he funny? ^_^

 

Felt like Thumbelina in the most colourful garden, in the museum!

It felt like I’m Thumbelina in the most colourful indoor garden!

 

My kids sitting under the lovely cupid tree at the Live.Laugh.Love. zone

My kids sitting under the lovely cupid tree at the Live.Laugh.Love. zone

 

Notice my hands? hahaha. Now I have a reason to return here! Hun, let’s have a second take please! X-D

 

My kids were thrilled and enjoyed themselves while appreciating everything that the museum has to offer.

 

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“It’s all good dad!”

 

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“It seemed so real!”

 

"Okay let's play one on two dad!"

“Okay let’s play one on two dad! We can beat you now!”

 

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Here’s what’s happening during our photo shoot

 

All right. Who can't resist spiderman kiss?

Well alright…who could resist spiderman’s kiss?

 

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This is going to be a good display in our living room wall, would you agree?

 

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He likes to play hero, this photo suits him the most #wolverine boy

 

one damsel in distress. or not.

Sofie said, “look from afar!”

 

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Though my kids have visited the Alive Museum a few times before, they’ve told me it’s always worth coming back… and indeed it was 🙂

Thank you AMS for this special invite!  Please log in to their website, click here for the latest updates or visit their Alive Museum facebook page.

 

 

 

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For all of you who would like a chance to visit the Alive Museum

We are giving away an Alive Museum family package (for 2 adults and 2 children) worth $90, just simply do the following :

1. Visit and Like our facebook page here

2. Like the Alive Museum Facebook page

3. Answer this: Why would you like to visit the Alive museum, in the “Comments” section below or:

4. Comment on our  Alive Museum facebook post here.  Best answer will win!

Winners will be notified on or before 9 Aug 2016. Goodluck 🙂

 

The death of happiness

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It felt like death when I realized I will be going away for 30 years.  I did not say my goodbyes to my children yet; they were all in school and my mind is telling me the next time I will see them is when they have families of their own. I cannot seem to comprehend what was happening to me.  My mind is whirring and I am drowning in an emotional slur. I remembered lying next to my husband on our bed, sleeping peacefully. I woke up, instead of him in my arms; I was holding a tray, already in prison. I panicked. I will not be home for a long time, and my children are still young. They are clueless, I will be gone.  I cannot accept it. The heavy weight has been placed on my chest and I am fighting it. I was sobbing the whole time. I woke up with tears in my eyes.

Back in reality, there I am working in my kitchen again, thinking. I was terrified, yes, and I am so not looking forward to revisit that dream. Happiness was robbed from me and I cannot let that happen in my sane world.

These past few days, I have forgotten what happiness is like, until this morning. My happiness are my CHILDREN and my HUSBAND. They are here with me. Whatever it is that my dream wanted to put in my head had lead me thinking that when you are happy, you hold on to that happiness because anytime, it can be taken away from you.

 

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Effective Ways To Ask Your Child

image source: BabyRabies.com

image source: BabyRabies.com

 

“Hi, how was your day?”

I can tell that they are bored hearing these words from mommy. They are so used to hearing it on and on and will only limit their answers to “fine” or “okay.”  This afternoon, I tried a different approach.

You are free to imagine my exaggerated face. Plus my exaggerated tone. It made them feel I’m really interested in what they were up to when they were away from me. The result was overwhelming. You will get what I mean as you read along.  But first things first, here are the effective ways to ask your child:

The hunch:

  • I am guessing you had an interesting day today…

The Intrigue:

  • You think you had a good time with your friends today? (whispering) Can you tell me more?
  • How about Ashley (name her best friend), you think she had fun playing with you too?

The specific:

  • What was your favorite activity that you did in school today?

The “when I was a kid like you” method (it will get them to talk, promise)

  • Back in the days when I was small, I remembered I was pretty scared taking my test. How about you, did you feel the same way when you had your test in Math?
  • I remembered the time when I was in Primary 2, there was this big kid that I was so afraid of. Did you ever experience that?

Kids tend to engage more with these interesting questions because they can relate with it easier.  Be more attentive when asking them, but be patient and don’t stress them out when they can’t find words to say. Just sit down with them and enjoy their company. Be more creative but specific. You might also find it effective when you whisper to them while asking these kinds of questions. You can only get them to talk when you talk.

 

So here’s what happened earlier.

I sat down with them on the dining table and uttered a hunch. “I think all of you had an interesting day today…”

The first to respond was Ethan.

“I told M___ not to kiss me anymore.”

Ooookay.

Zack was teasing.

“Me I don’t have a girlfriend yet.”

Sofie changed the subject.

“We said bad words in our class today.” (Watch out for my post about this)

But after hearing all of these, I think I’m going to have a heart attack too. And so be ready.