Women are best known for their countless emotions. Well what can we do, we can’t apologize for who we are – we are especially made to add colors into the world.
We are difficult to discourage yet we always have a heart for drama. We are audacious but peace-loving. Especially for mothers like us, we are also known for our lasting patience and tolerance. But when we are ANGERED, and could not contain it any longer, that’s another story.
Okay let’s face it, we also have one of those days when our ANGER goes out of hand. This is my fear as a mother and I sometimes fail in that aspect. Experts says that it is normal. But when it is becoming a routine, it’s about time you seek help and try to adapt anger management. Let me share with you some of the helpful tips I’ve learned on how to manage your anger.
1. BE AWARE OF THE SIGNS that you are getting angry.
– when your heart is pounding
– you feel like your eyes are rolling as you speak or
– your sight is no longer clear or getting dim
– your stern voice is becoming louder as you talk
you have to stop right there and
2. KEEP CALM. This always works. It stops you from being destructive and prevents you from retaliation. I always picture myself as PO (you got the right , the Kung Fu Panda) finding his inner peace.
– I think of my happy thoughts to keep me calm. Or:
– you may go to the bathroom, wash your face to clear out your mind
In school. my children were also being taught on how to handle anger by keeping calm through
– counting one to ten whenever they feel like shouting or they
– sit down for a while and take a deep breath
– a glass of water may also help you pacify a little
3. ACCEPT THE FEELING AND TALK TO THE PERSON. There’s no better way than being honest with your feelings towards that person who causes you trouble. Be brave to tell him/her and explain what made you angry. Be fair and listen to his explanation (there’s always another side of the story).
4. LEARN TO LET GO AND MOVE ON
Past is past. You are killing yourself if you are harboring ill feelings until now. Be mature to move on. Learn from your experience.
When you are fortunate enough to be a mom, talk to your kids, and tell them how you feel. That’s what I’ve learned to do. You can pick up a lot of words of encouragement and wisdom from them and sometimes help you forget.
How about you? Is there a particular thing you do when you’re feeling angry? Leave your comments and help an angry person. 🙂
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I agree, I really think honesty is so important – we can move past anger when someone just admits it and says, “I’m sorry”, you know?
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Thanks for your comment Beeb, sometimes we also have the tendency to hide our feelings and the situation gets even more complicated. Take care 🙂
Great post – anger is such a strong and reactionary emotion, so I appreciate these tips for keeping things in check.
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Thanks for your comment Andy, once in a while we need this kind of introspection. Take care!
Good tips! Sometimes we can get too angry!
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Thanks Taylor, sometimes we don’t care what other people say you know, we just snapped like that and then later on we realized that we shouldn’t act that way. Take care!
What a great post… I had anger issues as a teen and I remember the therapist saying just to go walk outside and take a break, then come back to the situation, it helped so much!
Thanks for the insight Shauna! I think I could apply that too. Take care!
When my wife gets angry its usually to do with something totally unrelated… We usually have to talk around the topic until we can figure out the real cause… Once we’ve cracked that its back to calmsville 🙂
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Yay! We can get long winded at times. Your wife is lucky to have a patient husband. Take care 🙂
Learning to tame your anger is something I’m sure most people deal with. I think just pausing to think about what your going to say, before you say it in anger, is one way to deal with it.
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It’s true Scott, if we always think before we talk (most especially when we’re angry) I’m sure “burned bridges” were non-existent. Thanks for your comment!
Great post with so many helpful tips. I tend to get angry quite easily.
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Thanks for dropping by Heather! We can get crazy sometimes you know. Take care 🙂
Great tips – so hard to remember them in the heat of the moment though! I agree with going somewhere else and cooling off. That always helps me.
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Thanks for sharing the great tips! It’s definitely a great thing to share your feelings with the kiddos. The younger they learn how to express their own feelings and have empathy for others feelings, the better!
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It really takes a lot to make me angry. I think that comes with age.
Thanks for this! I think we often get angry and don’t take a moment to calm ourselves, resulting in an angry fight or reaction. I’ll take all of this into account from now on.
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